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 Article by Leyla Garaeva

In childhood we do what our parents say. Then we grow up and other people make us do things we do not always like.

Is there no way out of this? Of being pushed around like a leaf in the wind?

Well, there just might be. Say ‘No’ to such a life. Stand up and get armed with… persuasion skills. All successful businessmen and politicians use them. Starting from ancient Rome and Greece the art of speaking was greatly appreciated and taught to the aristocratic class. Now everyone has a chance to learn and apply the skills to get success. In business, studies and just your casual life they can make all the difference. From being a leaf, to being a tree – solid and firm. 

There are many techniques to get what you want in conversation and here are 6 basic rules:

1. Start from strong arguments, then give average ones and in the end the strongest point. Do not mention weaknesses as a person will notice them immediately and think not about number of arguments but about their strength (for this you need to have enough knowledge about your topic and be prepared)
2. Imagine yourself in their place. Think – what he/she will get from your words.
3. Look at their body language. They often tell us about true feelings of a speaker. Moreover, you can mirror them and a person will feel comfortable and empathized with.
4. Be a good listener. It will help you keep aware of the subject and a person will appreciate your interest in his words.
5. Let them save face. If they feel offended their dignity will be destroyed. They do not want to show their foolishness in front of you.
6. Make them think that it is their idea. Speak out your suggestions and let them make a conclusion. They will feel motivated and proud of themselves and you will achieve what you want.

All you need now is to be patient and persistent and surely you will not miss your chance for success!

Useful links:

http://www.wikihow.com/Persuade-People-with-Subconscious-Techniques

http://www.1000ventures.com/business_guide/crosscuttings/persuading_people_bybt.html 

http://www.evancarmichael.com/Work-Life/1709/12-Ways-to-Persuade-People-to-do-More-for-You.html

Useful book:

Dale Carnegie. How to Win Friends and Influence People